Hi,
Our mum was fiercely independent until late 2016, managing her own level 4 package and refusing to use mobility aids. She is nearly 87 and has multiple medical issues including advanced Parkinson’s Disease and moderate dementia. She is often not verbal now and is barely ambulant - requires assistance to sit and stand but can walk assisted.
She has had a friend who the family have ‘tolerated’ for numerous years. He paid rent and did household maintenance in return for a very nice home. They claim single pensions. Centrelink has investigated the nature of their relationship and have always determined that my mum was telling the truth.
At a time when our mum is most vulnerable her ‘friend’ has applied to VCAT to be her guardian and administrator and listed on the application papers that he is her de facto/partner. We managed to fight for an the Office of the Public Advocate and State Trustee to be her guardian and administrator respectfully.
Since the appointment of State Trustee, mum has been saving money. A year later, at the review meeting, the ‘carer’ is making noises about mum’s care needs increasing. The OPA guardian indicated that once mum requires a hoist she will need to be transferred to a residential aged care home.
Our mum’s home is worth around $1M and she has around $50k in the bank. We want her to get the best care possible and think that the ‘carer’ will argue that he can stay in the house for 2 years.
What should we argue for? Is it best for our mum for us to argue for the house to be sold and that it is used to fund the RAD? We don’t want her in just any old home …
Sad daughters